tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post1154128524424727470..comments2024-03-23T04:01:56.197-07:00Comments on Christa Writes: On being a dude...and what to do about rapeChrista Desirhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15614441465633549710noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-82593785379891931522013-03-28T10:33:13.988-07:002013-03-28T10:33:13.988-07:00Oh, and I completely agree about music. Don't ...Oh, and I completely agree about music. Don't support assholes.<br /><br />I even wrote something about it for Jessica Bell last year:<br /><br />http://thealliterativeallomorph.blogspot.com/2012/11/author-guest-post-bye-bye-hate-poetic.htmlMatthew MacNishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03264738483763244969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-2336524080264820802013-03-28T10:28:13.660-07:002013-03-28T10:28:13.660-07:00Oh god. I wear ribbed white tank tops, and I have ...Oh god. I wear ribbed white tank tops, and I have totally referred to them as wifebeaters.<br /><br />It's supposed to be tongue-in-cheek, since I've never hit a woman, and never would hit anyone, actually, but when you think about it, it's not funny.<br /><br />I'm a little ashamed to admit it, but this is a good (albeit small) example of one of your excellent points.<br /><br />Sometimes it's just a matter of being conscious and increasing our awareness. Realizing that certain terms like that can minimize legitimate suffering, and committing to not using them anymore, is a good step.<br /><br />Anyway, as to the Nice Guys Rape Article ... wow. So glad Jill articulated so well what was wrong with that argument, because I'm too shocked to put it into words.<br /><br />I mean, even if a woman wants to have sex with you, she wants to be awake for it. How could this guy not see that penetrating an unconscious person with any part of your body is always rape?Matthew MacNishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03264738483763244969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-1020641961561722042012-12-19T08:16:29.638-08:002012-12-19T08:16:29.638-08:00I got this article because a buddy had the sense t...I got this article because a buddy had the sense to send it to me. I'm not sure how, but it would be in everyone's best interest to get this message to as large an audience as possible. I know I will be forwarding it to my sons and friends. Thanks for sharing such important information.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17780517513571750635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-977139995154674192012-12-17T11:03:24.225-08:002012-12-17T11:03:24.225-08:00Great, great post. Thank you for putting this into...Great, great post. Thank you for putting this into works. I, too, am baffled by the fact that Chris Brown still has a music career.Alexis Basshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00635465457833459349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-88319003990191457862012-12-16T14:08:41.672-08:002012-12-16T14:08:41.672-08:00EXCELLENT post, Christa. EXCELLENT post, Christa. Jessica Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01382996481558671385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-83142954043262745272012-12-15T23:55:32.317-08:002012-12-15T23:55:32.317-08:00I can't even deal with the fact that Chris Bro...I can't even deal with the fact that Chris Brown is completely forgiven in the public's eye and that his music is still out there.Sophia Changhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10946233873722107937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-76615973046127485382012-12-14T12:36:19.984-08:002012-12-14T12:36:19.984-08:00Thank you for writing this! I wrote a similar arti...Thank you for writing this! I wrote a similar article aimed at engaging men in pro-feminist anti-violence work. There is some overlap, so it might be helpful for people.<br /><br />I'm not trying to derail or take over your thread! Thank you again for this post.<br /><br />http://profeministbro.tumblr.com/post/35071473996/male-ally-tips-things-you-can-do-every-dayUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01106517526626635617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-44203424501908829912012-12-13T19:25:03.037-08:002012-12-13T19:25:03.037-08:00You know I have a million things to say about this...You know I have a million things to say about this. I'll narrow it down to one (okay, two - I REFUSE to buy my 11-year-old son a video game that requires the player to beat up prostitutes and kill police officers. this makes me a BAD MOM. I don't care.)<br /><br />Also - Give or take a hundred, I've slept in the same bed as my husband 6,000 times. Sometimes I was sexy, sometimes I was drinking, sometimes I was sick, sometimes I was tired. . .you know where I'm going with this.<br /><br /><3<br />ericaerica and christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13074820593371226159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-38726869172450955952012-12-13T19:04:04.884-08:002012-12-13T19:04:04.884-08:00I'll second most of my fellow commenters: This...I'll second most of my fellow commenters: This post is so incredibly important, and the fact that you were able to put it all so eloquently blows my mind. Well done, friend.Katy Uppermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07725740174190514869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-36535528073044929932012-12-13T18:20:04.933-08:002012-12-13T18:20:04.933-08:00Thanks for putting this into words. I just wish i...Thanks for putting this into words. I just wish it didn't have to be... But I'll be making sure both my sons know all this when they get to the age where they may need to deal with this kind of thing.Kate Larkindalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06202347563426692610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-89905694644448373792012-12-13T17:40:32.554-08:002012-12-13T17:40:32.554-08:00Excellent post. Thank you. Excellent post. Thank you. Shari Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12495151345889657066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-54426463299932079682012-12-13T17:12:25.476-08:002012-12-13T17:12:25.476-08:00Thank you for the insight on this post. I tend to ...Thank you for the insight on this post. I tend to block "the issues" that I should be talking to my daughters about right now. I want my eldest daughter to read this and soon. <br />It's never too early to instill values and people are so inundated with the culture of assholery with TV, internet, media in general...when will media learn to love instead of be violent?Shanahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14922240766797994482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-14595792815359248102012-12-13T17:03:00.193-08:002012-12-13T17:03:00.193-08:00Thank you for this, Christa.
You know, I knew tha...Thank you for this, Christa.<br /><br />You know, I knew that your book had a male pov, and I never really thought about why, except to think it would make for a very compelling story. But the reasons you list here were like this huge lightbulb moment for me--if you can get boys to identify with the boy who cares and gets it, maybe it will be easier for them to be that guy in real life.<br /><br />This is all so well said. As I would expect.<br /><br />You are amazing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-70120090043874277872012-12-13T16:52:24.617-08:002012-12-13T16:52:24.617-08:00This is an incredibly important blog post. Especia...This is an incredibly important blog post. Especially this:<br /><br />"Be the guy who is willing to be the buzz kill to keep people safe."<br /><br />I'm extremely grateful for the guy who had the guts to remove me--a girl he hardly knew--from a bad situation my freshman year of college. If there had been more guys like him around that night, maybe my friend who wasn't as lucky could have been saved, too. <br /><br />Thanks for this, C. I can't wait to give copies of FAULT LINE to every boy in my life.Kate Avelynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06054483063550572614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-6898438190187687502012-12-13T16:52:22.075-08:002012-12-13T16:52:22.075-08:00Thank you for expressing what some of us find so d...Thank you for expressing what some of us find so difficult to express.Lydia Sharphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15328254761920829040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-82878551979655422022012-12-13T16:51:38.526-08:002012-12-13T16:51:38.526-08:00As the mother of a (right now very tiny) dude, I r...As the mother of a (right now very tiny) dude, I really appreciate this post. I ask myself almost every day, "How can I raise my son to not just respect women, but to actively work to prevent disrespect & violence against women?" This is great, practical, heartfelt advice. Thank you.A. J. Larrieuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13880636157146909387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-9805178521003890032012-12-13T16:44:04.382-08:002012-12-13T16:44:04.382-08:00You gave me a wake-up call in this post. I may hav...You gave me a wake-up call in this post. I may have listened to music, read a book, or bought a products who represents a mindset I don't support.<br /><br />Thanks. Really.Brindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09809660700359597836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-75165312654298005432012-12-13T16:11:40.780-08:002012-12-13T16:11:40.780-08:00LOVE this. Of course.
I'm so glad you found a ...LOVE this. Of course.<br />I'm so glad you found a way to say ALL of this.<br />You are amazing.Jolene Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14809468564016928636noreply@blogger.com