tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post1197629320649227223..comments2024-03-23T04:01:56.197-07:00Comments on Christa Writes: The Kindness Project: Be Your WordChrista Desirhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15614441465633549710noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-20398532804902821592012-07-15T20:13:23.123-07:002012-07-15T20:13:23.123-07:00This is so true - it's hard to say no, it'...This is so true - it's hard to say no, it's harder to admit to yourself that you can't do it all, but in the end it makes things much better and more balanced when you do. I love these kindness posts!!Alexis Basshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00635465457833459349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-68281634433896740312012-07-15T19:44:04.526-07:002012-07-15T19:44:04.526-07:00This is something I've struggled with as well....This is something I've struggled with as well. Late nights, exhaustion, and finding that my responsibilities to my home and family get neglected have made me realize it isn't sustainable. Burnout helps nobody. So I'm learning that a polite "no" is a necessary response in many cases. A tough, but valuable lesson indeed. And a kindness. Well said!Alina Kleinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07499769990637055382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-17549606520397887062012-07-14T08:37:50.010-07:002012-07-14T08:37:50.010-07:00That's excellent advice! I stretch myself too ...That's excellent advice! I stretch myself too thin at times too and then scramble to get things done. In the end, we must be our word, and make sure we don't extend ourselves beyond what we're capable of. Well said!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05130733681254163610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-61573900723394920612012-07-14T05:21:48.715-07:002012-07-14T05:21:48.715-07:00I agree. I used to have a hard time saying "n...I agree. I used to have a hard time saying "no," but I've found it easier. In the past I couldn't accomplish my goals because I was saying yes to everything, and then I became resentful at the people asking or angry at myself for saying yes or not being able to follow through.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-22008940683759510462012-07-13T11:48:47.874-07:002012-07-13T11:48:47.874-07:00I have a difficult time to "no" when I&#...I have a difficult time to "no" when I'm asked for help. I want to help everybody. I don't say this as a pat on my own back. It makes me stressed and then I don't accomplish some things I want to on time. I need to manage my load better.Brindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09809660700359597836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-18219022241389208282012-07-12T23:04:41.848-07:002012-07-12T23:04:41.848-07:00What a great message. Sometimes we want to say &qu...What a great message. Sometimes we want to say "yes" to everything and then we can't commit 100% to each thing, and end up only giving around 50%. So if you'd just said no to a few the quality of the ones you said "yes" to would go up in quality. I love that part about creating a foundation of trust, that's so spot on!!<br /><br />Great post ;o)erica m. chapmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14773306703153110737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-32457167513227018422012-07-12T04:20:05.664-07:002012-07-12T04:20:05.664-07:00Word is bond. Now, if only I could get published s...Word is bond. Now, if only I could get published so I could experience some of this. LOL.Matthew MacNishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03264738483763244969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-55457170374862454142012-07-12T00:11:47.461-07:002012-07-12T00:11:47.461-07:00This is a great post and one I needed to read. I ...This is a great post and one I needed to read. I have trouble saying no, thinking I'm being kind by not refusing anyone's request, only to fall behind and have to be unkind when I have to push things back. Still, it's difficult to say no.roxanne s. sukhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16424834424208118694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-72235930082765819482012-07-11T22:22:35.928-07:002012-07-11T22:22:35.928-07:00Very well said, Christa!
I think we all want to sa...Very well said, Christa!<br />I think we all want to say "yes" to everything and sometimes the "yes" we give end up hurting more than a "no", does that make sense?<br />I´m starting to get better at saying "no", not when it comes to helping other people but for things that I know will put too much stress on me and on them at the end :D<br />But it´s not always easy!Elodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10617288449988402123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-87938959988291085762012-07-11T19:33:23.403-07:002012-07-11T19:33:23.403-07:00YES! It's become astronomically important for...YES! It's become astronomically important for me to be impeccable with my word - particularly living in L.A. I make sure to be as reliable as I can about my commitments, so that I only attract similar people. I relax my relationships with flakes (that's my nice way of saying it) and focus and cultivate the people who are dependable.Sophia Changhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10946233873722107937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-50411421104925709722012-07-11T16:56:53.831-07:002012-07-11T16:56:53.831-07:00I try to limit my commitments for exactly this rea...I try to limit my commitments for exactly this reason. I always want to turn things in when I say I will, and be there when I've promised. Not always possible, but it's important to me, because I know how frustrating it is--and how trust-demolishing--when those promises aren't kept.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06636585111057799728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-8090311605408329102012-07-11T15:25:08.127-07:002012-07-11T15:25:08.127-07:00Saying no is so hard sometimes, but it's so mu...Saying no is so hard sometimes, but it's so much better than saying yes and not following through. I hate it when that happens to me and I feel absolutely sick if I'm the one who does it to someone else. Building that trust is vital to having deep, meaningful relationships--and that's what I want in my life. Great post. Thank you!Sara B. Larsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14213313028658810705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-36434460392894833812012-07-11T12:37:22.606-07:002012-07-11T12:37:22.606-07:00"Be your word" is such an awesome phrase..."Be your word" is such an awesome phrase. I related to this post so much! I have the hardest time saying "no." I hate letting people down.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313619484424363895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-77221900524239853042012-07-11T08:44:44.963-07:002012-07-11T08:44:44.963-07:00I value the people in my life that I can truly dep...I value the people in my life that I can truly depend on...and I've become more selective of what I commit to because I WANT to be that dependable person for someone else. Thank you for the reminderAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-9328589042925893382012-07-11T08:31:03.409-07:002012-07-11T08:31:03.409-07:00Having people in my life that I know I can rely on...Having people in my life that I know I can rely on no matter what gives me such a strong sense of peace--so I try to do that for people as often as I can. You're right though, it can be so easy to overextend ourselves--and have the BEST of intentions while doing so, but then fall short because saying yes came too easily and we run out of time. Learning to say no without feeling like a failure of a friend is a hard lesson to get through, but in the end, being honest about the time we have is a kindness to ourselves AND the people we'd have disappointed if we'd said yes. If that makes sense, I feel like I just rambled on and on, ha.Sara {Rhapsody and Chaos}https://www.blogger.com/profile/09824996048264979275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-60210858080086432362012-07-11T08:01:43.985-07:002012-07-11T08:01:43.985-07:00Being our word. Wow. This hits such a place with m...Being our word. Wow. This hits such a place with me. As a teacher, I see the daily pain in kids where broken promises have harmed them so deeply.Barbara Watsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06547166495514562286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-79507791631923366232012-07-11T07:57:03.199-07:002012-07-11T07:57:03.199-07:00Yes! This! If there is one thing I've never wa...Yes! This! If there is one thing I've never wavered on, it's follow through...no matter how much I wanted to blow off something I wish I hadn't agreed to. Sometimes it's hard but you found the exact right word in TRUST. I don't trust people who balk at keeping their word, and I never want people to feel that way about me. This can mean saying no at times (which is like pulling a stubborn tooth for me) but I have come to realize my limitations and occasionally the n-word passes my lips. Even if it's a sputtering, "N. N. N. Nnnno." (Probably followed by a profuse apology. I'm still working on that.)Michele Shawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16768815750264631798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-87392005528172992382012-07-11T07:37:56.112-07:002012-07-11T07:37:56.112-07:00It's only been in the last 5 years that I'...It's only been in the last 5 years that I've finally learned to say no...sans guilt, sans giving my list of reasons why I can't (that was the guilt explaining). I went a lot of decades saying yes to everyone and everything...and stressed out. Because when I say yes, I do it well...I go the distance. <br />Anyway, learning to say "no" is one of the best things I've ever done for myself. And now a yes is indeed, as you say, far more meaningful.<br /><br />I hope you are enjoying your summer, C. <3Lola Sharphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14394765053485642935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-86487847031075627122012-07-11T06:54:46.047-07:002012-07-11T06:54:46.047-07:00I have to learn to be better about this. My first ...I have to learn to be better about this. My first instinct is always to say yes, but what a disappointment to them and to me when I struggle to follow through. You're right--it's much more important to say yes meaningfully than just to say yes. And then to make a point of following through on your word.Carolina M. Valdez Schneiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11589934533051907801noreply@blogger.com