tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post6149617909891102667..comments2024-03-23T04:01:56.197-07:00Comments on Christa Writes: The Slut-Shelf & Sexual ViolenceChrista Desirhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15614441465633549710noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-70987438817884576362020-01-22T21:45:28.466-08:002020-01-22T21:45:28.466-08:00Great post! I do agree with you. Apart from this, ...Great post! I do agree with you. Apart from this, anyone here Looking for free <a title="Local Hookup" href="https://www.casualhookups.info/local-hookup" rel="nofollow">local hookup</a>? 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Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00088847302697137912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-24952343594408172922014-05-03T16:43:40.611-07:002014-05-03T16:43:40.611-07:00I agree with you totally.I agree with you totally.ChickLitGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17033692383561492784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-34538343976399017652014-05-02T18:06:30.490-07:002014-05-02T18:06:30.490-07:00I've said before and I'll gladly say it ag...I've said before and I'll gladly say it again: I'm so happy that people are trying to bring a spotlight on slut-shaming and rape culture, because this has been a topic too long ignored and overlooked. People need to understand that slut-shaming and rape culture truly do exist, and those that don't believe these things are happening need to be greatly educated. This has been such a problem in the last 10 years or so, and I hope people are starting to realize that these things are happening and that they need to be stopped. Its time finally treat one another as humans and give everyone the respect they deserved. Topics such as these need to be advocated much more so the cruel things that we do to each other can quicker come to an end.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10417570821786523668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-28081706326505772282014-05-01T04:54:41.711-07:002014-05-01T04:54:41.711-07:00pretty nice blog, following :)pretty nice blog, following :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-62829118644224881802014-04-29T16:37:57.580-07:002014-04-29T16:37:57.580-07:00As a rape survivor, I think one of the problems is...As a rape survivor, I think one of the problems is people still count rape as sex. It's not. Rape is not about sex, it's about power. <br /><br />And how someone can force someone else into doing something. Most rapes are done by men, though not all. <br /><br />Scotland did an anti-rape campaign and it was one of the most brilliant ones I've seen because it wasn't toward the future victim about how not to get raped. It was toward perpetrators.<br /><br />Well done Scotland. We need something similar in the US.Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02995447825109758826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-47958691996419107512014-04-29T06:21:31.830-07:002014-04-29T06:21:31.830-07:00It is a difficult subject to discuss. The shame w...It is a difficult subject to discuss. The shame we heap on ourselves is fed by the snide remarks and questions like what were you wearing. The guilt and the feelings of being broken are more than enough to make you want to crawl in a hole and never come out. We tend to distance ourself from friends simply because it hurts too much to see the discomfort and the thought (not neccisarily true) that they don't really want us around anymore.<br />Thank you for your work <br />KenziAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04873660631675841860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-35854322192610553432014-04-28T18:23:58.875-07:002014-04-28T18:23:58.875-07:00You do an amazing job with your blog posts. I appr...You do an amazing job with your blog posts. I appreciate all the effort you go through to write about the tough stuff that nobody else wants to talk about.Gabichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06265416722512580700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-63039819313909893992014-04-28T17:05:24.702-07:002014-04-28T17:05:24.702-07:00I think it's ridiculous to ask, "Why did ...I think it's ridiculous to ask, "Why did she sneak out with an older guy?" The question should be, "Why was this older guy trying to convince an young girl to sneak out with him?" Adrianne Russellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18108123882094459747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-86445606739480034352014-04-28T17:04:37.532-07:002014-04-28T17:04:37.532-07:00As a survivor of multiple rapes, I want to thank y...As a survivor of multiple rapes, I want to thank you for writing about this. <br /><br />Some days, I have the confidence and ability to articulate similar thoughts when I hear or read hurtful and ignorant comments that blame the victim. Other days, those kinds of comments just trigger all the hurt, self-doubt, and self-blame I heaped on myself to return. And, some days, I am just all too tired of it all to even try to respond.<br /><br />So, I am truly thankful to you for what you are doing, and I would love to read those books.Tammiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039987314503030107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-26220215847417600872014-04-28T10:16:24.505-07:002014-04-28T10:16:24.505-07:00Thank you so much for doing this kind of work! As ...Thank you so much for doing this kind of work! As someone who works with teens, this kind of post, and these kind of books, are crucial in articulating to them these complicated issues!Mackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765760856336615864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-12617258981849608602014-04-28T05:44:14.863-07:002014-04-28T05:44:14.863-07:00My daughter is becoming more and more aware of clo...My daughter is becoming more and more aware of clothes and with that comes my knee jerk reaction, which is to dress her like she lives in the 1850s. I really struggle with sending her positive messages about her body and not planting those seeds of living in fear of showing her body, but at the same time, like you said, I don't want anyone looking at her that way. She's almost 5, but in the swimsuit section alone, I see suits that I view as trying to sexualize young girls. So, on one hand, we're (society) telling girls that they should aspire to look 10 years older than they are, then we're blaming them and telling them they asked for it when they object to being sexualized. This whole issue is so much more insidious that I EVER imagined, and I'm embarrassed to say that until I had a daughter, it's not really something I thought about a lot. You better believe it's on my radar now, though. Kate @ Ex Librishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16161681565485372950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-46720133265918945252014-04-27T11:30:23.861-07:002014-04-27T11:30:23.861-07:00Amen, to both the comment above and to this blog p...Amen, to both the comment above and to this blog post.<br />Victim shaming and the assignment of guilt is something that rape victims should NEVER have to deal with. Instead of love, support, and justice, victims are often asked, "What were you wearing/doing? How were you acting?" It doesn't matter! I deserve the right to be drunk at a party without being considered rape bait or fair game. And if I were raped, God help me, in what fucked mentality is it okay to say I was asking for it or that I should have known better? Should have KNOWN better? How totally and completely outrageous is that?! Am I saying I should live in a state of perpetual oblivion in which I fear nothing or no one? Of course not. But I shouldn't have to live my life as a would be victim who has to constantly safeguard herself against every potentially violent action that someone else can force upon me? I think not.<br />We live in a perverse society in which the sexuality, or number of sexual partners/conquests, is considered "good" and "natural" for men (the more, the better!), whereas a woman who has had the same number of partners is considered a used up slut. Further, females are under this societal pressure to be a good girl, yet oftentimes they’re expected to "put out". <br />I hope it doesn't sound like I'm disregarding male victims of abuse, or that I'm demonizing all men. Since women have historically been considered the weaker sex, garnering sympathy for them is much easier. Men, as the image of strength and masculinity, aren't afforded such sympathy, and often their abuse/attack is regarded as a joke. I mean, he's a GUY, of course he WANTED IT. No. Absolutely, positively, freakin' NO. Period. Abuse is abuse. And until our society comes to accept men as human beings worthy of equal sympathy, until we begin seeing assault on males as legitimate and real, many victims will be forced to live without help or support, and remain ashamed because society tells them that they are never, and can never, be sexual victims.<br />I know women's rights have gotten to where they are today through years of progressive, and tireless, efforts of men and women alike: but progress does not equate to success. I'm glad to say that there are people, good people, who fight for those who have been silenced, or forgotten, or dismissed. The written word has always been an outlet for social change, and I am grateful to you for speaking up where others can or will not. <br />God bless.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7292808536017608740.post-28597536431916931542014-04-27T09:41:06.000-07:002014-04-27T09:41:06.000-07:00So true! No one ever, ever "asks" to be...So true! No one ever, ever "asks" to be raped. In fact,that would go against the whole definition of rape.Rickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05108470370944541128noreply@blogger.com