Me to my friend Carolyn: I love teenagers.
Her (with the big eyes and the giant gaping mouth reserved for parents of teens) to me: Why?
I had to think on this. And then think some more. It took at least ten minutes of thinking. Finally, I sent her a missive this morning via FB. It is below. Pardon the redundancies, it was written at 5am.
Here's what I love about teens:
1. I love how everything is so horrible and broken one minute and then not. That kind of drama and resilience is only found in these years.
2. I love that they argue like grown ups but don't know enough about the world to actually win these arguments.
3. I love that they will never look this good again and they treat their bodies like crap...and I love knowing one day they won't be able to and will resent it.
4. I love that the teen years are arguably the crappiest hormonal times of their lives and they have no idea how much of what they're going through has to do with that.
I hated being a teen. I loved my friends but it was the worst time in my life. And still, here I am, better for going through it. Able to take the crap salad and turn it into something good. It's the tenacity and constant fight to make it through the day that makes me have so much heart for teens. I remember that struggle, I remember when it felt like I lost, but somehow I made it anyway.
I love teens because things suck and they keep going. And I love watching them move beyond it.