So a few months ago, I was showing Jojo (my 10yo daughter) how GoodReads works. She doesn't have her own account, but I wanted the two of us to start logging the MG books we read together on there. When we opened up my page, my book came up.
Jojo: Mom, how come your book has ratings already even though it hasn't come out?
Me: Well, some of those people are my friends who are my critique partners so they actually have read the book.
Jojo: One of your friends gave you one star? That's sad. She didn't like the book, huh?
Me (laughing): No, that's from someone I don't know who hasn't read the book.
Jojo: Well, then how come they gave it one star?
Me: I don't know. Maybe they don't like me. Maybe they don't like what the book's about. Maybe they're a writer and I decided not to edit their book for my job. I can't really say.
Then there was this REALLY long pause where Jojo opened and closed her mouth half a dozen times.
Jojo: That's horrible. I didn't know grown-ups could be that way too. I thought just kids did dumb stuff like that. I don't have any reason for growing up now.
Now, let's fast forward to last night. Jojo was sitting next to me to watch the beginning of the Oscars (neither of us had seen any of the movies, but we like to look at dresses and see the costume design award!). At 7:40, Shatner is reprimanding Seth MacFarlane for something offensive he's "going to do" and I have to put the TV on mute during Seth's "We've seen your boobs" song. I have to put the TV on mute 4 more times before the Oscar for costume design is given out at 8:10 and we can go to bed. During one of the mutes, Jojo turns to me and says, "How come you keep muting? It can't be that bad. There are kids in the audience and that little girl (Quvenzhane) is a year younger than me."
Then, I hear about the Onion tweet. Have you heard about this Tweet? The one that they quickly deleted but not before half a million Onion followers could see them call Quvenzhane a "c*nt". So last night, on likely the biggest night of Q's life, within two hours of the commencement of the award show, she's exposed to "boobs" and "c*nt".
I'm sorry, Jojo. I'm sorry that grown-ups also can suck. Sometimes (and really most times) more than kids. I'm sorry that you can't see pretty costumes without being exposed to sexism. I'm sorry, Quvenzhane. I'm sorry you didn't get your own mute button. I hope that you know that most of the world thinks you're lovely and amazing and incredibly talented. I hope you know that most of the world was horrified by what the Onion did.
Last night wasn't a great night. I hope today is better.